Adapting to a new caregiver is hard for everyone. Is your attitude impacting your parent’s response to that caregiver? If you’re trying too hard to mediate interactions, it can make it hard for your parent to rely on the senior care aide. Here are things you need to make sure you’re not doing.
Watch What You Say
Watch what you say about the caregiver when your parent is around. You may not agree with the choices the caregiver makes. That’s okay. Don’t voice your opinion around your parent. Talk to the caregiver privately and address concerns without your parent’s knowledge.
When you’re around your parent, make sure you’re being positive. You don’t want to give your parent any reason to be negative when it comes to the senior care he or she is receiving.
Let the Caregiver Settle Issues
It may be tempting to dive in if your parent is unhappy, but you must resist that urge. Let the caregiver use his or her training to handle potential problems. You have to have faith in the caregiver’s training. If the caregiver needs help, the caregiver will come ask for your help.
Don’t be a Helicopter Parent to Your Parent
The goal of senior care is to help your parent be independent while aging at home. To make sure this happens, you need to step back and let your parent try to do things independently. It can take a few attempts, but your parent will be delighted when they are successful. It will boost confidence and self-esteem.
As an example of ways you might be parenting your parent, look at this situation. One woman struggled with socialization. Her daughter grew accustomed to cutting her off and finishing her sentences when she was trying to talk to her aide.
If your parent has Alzheimer’s and is trying to come up with the right words, let your mom or dad come up with it. Resist the urge to fill in blanks and finish something that’s causing difficulty.
Use your parent’s desire to be independent to your advantage. While your parent is doing things on his or her own, you can go out with friends, your kids, or your significant other. Give yourself a break.
Caregivers support your parent’s independence and provide you with the chance to have a break. Respite care is a service that you need to discuss when you talk to a senior care specialist.
You’ll need to be there for your parent with the adjustment to senior care, but you also need to push your parent into independence. Call a senior care agency to learn more.
If you or an aging loved one are considering senior care in The Energy Corridor, TX, please call the caring staff at At Your Side Home Care. We will answer all of your senior care questions. Call today: (832) 271-1600.
Our Certified Nurse Aides, 24-Hour Live-in Assistants and Home Health Aides are available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. We also provide the security and confidence of 24-hour Telephone Assistance, so fast, reliable help is always available when it's needed. To learn more about our homecare services see our homecare services page.
Different people need different levels of homecare. To meet the requirements of our clients, At Your Side Homecare maintains consistent staffing levels of caring professionals. Homecare service is available for as little as a few hours a week, or as many as 24 hours a day, seven days a week
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