Sometimes it’s not really about changing the minds of your other family members, but it’s more about finding the right way to communicate with them.
Look at Your True Goal
If your true goal is just to get any help at all, you’re going to have a different approach than if your goal is to have someone be willing to bounce ideas around with you. It’s much better if your goal is concrete and specific. For example, one very specific goal could be that you need help with the yard at your loved one’s home. Another might be that you need help running errands or transporting your loved one. Getting your specific goals down on paper helps you to share that information more readily.
Get Clear with Everyone Involved
Once you have your goals straight, it’s time to communicate those goals with your family members. Remember that they don’t have the same experiences with caregiving that you have, so something that seems obvious to you may be something that they’ve never thought of before. That can mean that they’ve been willing to help, but didn’t fully understand what you needed until you explained it.
Don’t Try to Force Anything
If, after you’ve clearly explained what you need, you’re still not getting the help you require, don’t force the issue. Doing so is only going to cause arguments and strife, neither of which are something that you or your loved one need. Smile, accept that answer, and move on with your day. You can either move on to the next person on your list or you can take another tack.
Keep in Mind that There Are Other Solutions
So you’ve talked to everyone and no one can help. This is not as horrendous as it sounds. You’ve got other options. Talk with senior agencies in your area to find out what types of assistance they can offer. Talk to friends and neighbors about what they can do. Consider hiring elder care providers. All of these options can get you the help that you need without further alienating other family members.
No matter what happens, keep your needs and your loved one’s needs in mind as you negotiate with other family members because that helps you stay on target.
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